When we think of online dating, it’s usually the mainstream sites like match.com or rsvp that online singles tend to turn to. Online daters simply don’t look forward to the same old sign up routine ie: Register – sell yourself in your profile description – upload some photos – hope for the best. It’s like entering the lottery – your number will probably never come up!

When you speak to someone who has used an online dating site, common frustrations involve that lack of members that openly match their requirements. For example, if a guy is looking to have an affair and he openly states this in his profile on one of the mainstream online dating sites, the majority of women will be put off by this profile as they are more than likely seeking a standard romantic match up with a single guy. Cut through the frustrations of the regular dating sites and find your niche or fetish…

Ashley Madison.

Talk about brash! The founder is a Canadian businessman and the advertising pitch is “Life is short. Have an affair!” This cheating website has over 4 million naughty members worldwide and proves there is certainly room in the online dating industry for niche markets. And if you don’t or are unsuccessful in having an affair, these guys have a “no affair – no fee” money back guarantee. We’re not sure how Ashley Madison sets out to police this policy, or what process someone needs to go through to prove that they didn’t get laid!

Scientific Match.

Just when you thought you’ve heard it all, these guys go to amazing lengths to find compatibility. And what surer why than to extract DNA from potential couples before introducing them, therefore offer a higher chance of a chemical connection, and it’ll set you back $2000 for a life time subscription. It’s a pretty comprehensive form of matchmaking so it’s not bad value as opposed to being dumped among 10s of thousands of highly incompatible singles on plentyoffish. Here are some of the benefits of being matched the ScientificMatch way…

* Attraction through natural body fragrance of your matches.

* Women are more sexually enhanced and will orgasm more frequently.

* DNA matched women and men are known to remain faithful.

* Couples tend to have higher rates of fertility.

* Offspring have a better chance of leading healthy lives with a reduced possibility of encountering common diseases like cancer.

Women Behind Bars.

For the guys out there who worry their ladies will cheat on them with other men – worry no more. This online dating site stitches you up with a female criminal of your choice who is in full time incarceration. The catch is though (besides not being able to have sex with them) , that the ladies are not permitted to state why they have been locked up on their profile, and are only permitted to communicate via standard snail mail. Women behind bars has been receiving positive reviews from the male members. So is there a new franchise about to be launched into the dating market – ‘men behind bars’… We hope not!

No longer lonely.

Fasten your straight jacket, make sure you tell someone where you’re going, because this little beauty is way out there! If you are clinically insane, are a schizophrenic, suffer from delusions and paranoia, or how about any kind of mental illness, then log onto NoLongerLonely and browse through the singles profiles – what could possibly go wrong?

Don’t you hate it when you send a prospective date a message and they don’t bother to respond? How frustrating, not to mention a waste of you time. It’s the new equivalent of sitting by the phone waiting for it to ring. This can be a problem with some online dating sites. How do you know if they actually received your message?

In fact, that’s what I want to talk about. Even though online dating is so much safer and secure these days, some sites just don’t get it. The two most common complaints are either the service is poor or you pay for a membership to an online dating site that has 23 members but you thought they had 23,000. Well, that used to be the case. Now, service levels on online dating sites are becoming sophisticated.

Here’s what I mean. When you make contact or attempt to make contact with someone through an online dating site you expect a reply. If you don’t get one, you might think that that person didn’t like your profile, picture or maybe it was that certificate you obtained in advanced cannibalism. Joking! On the other hand, maybe that person didn’t get it yet or is no longer a member. There are many reasons. My point is – don’t get upset, it can happen.

More importantly, when you do get a reply, you’d like to think that it was real and written specifically for you…right? Some aren’t! That’s right. There are some lazy members who have many accounts with many online dating sites who think they are clever by cut and pasting their responses and posting them on all of their profiles on many sites. Fortunately, these responses are not hard to pick. So you really don’t want these lazy members for a date or for that matter…anything!

On the other hand, you may get a reply which is pleasant and there are a couple of points made in their reply that take your interest. Reply to them and make it known that you have an interest in those areas too. You should ask questions on those topics. Get the conversation started. Stimulate the communication and peel back the layers to see what in fact you’ve got hold of. It might just be the right partner.

Have you met someone through online dating that you are now trying to get rid of? There are plenty of ways to finish up the friendship nicely. Try to remember that you should always treat others the way you would like to be treated yourself.

Obviously with online dating, much as in real life, the friendship moves through various stages. Different stages can require different ways of saying, or sending, the dreaded “It’s not you, it’s me”.

New friends are probably the easiest to brush off. If you have only been chatting a few times and haven’t gotten to the stage of exchanging personal details, there are a couple of ways to go. There are 2 extremely popular ways of giving your online dating friend the brush off at this stage. Personally I think both of them are a bit cowardly. The first is to just stop answering your friend’s emails. They usually get the hint and stop messaging you. The other is to constantly think up new excuses as to why you shouldn’t move to the next stage.

Why not just be a little honest? Why not say something like “It’s been great chatting but I don’t think there is any point in continuing”. Making up excuses can just leave the other person hanging on and continuing to message you till they get the hint. (Some people are slower than others.)

Online dating friends that you have exchanged details with or even dated a few times can be a bit more tricky. If you have met up on a date then you should tell them you are no longer keen. Ignoring phone calls, texts and emails is the coward’s way out. Give the person a call and tell them that you don’t think it is going to go anywhere. There is no need to be rude. If you have actually met up in person then dumping them by text or email is rude. You can either call them and tell them, or wait for them to contact you and then decline the date, explaining there won’t be any more dates.

Are You Being Given The Brush Off?

These statements and behaviours are virtual guarantees that they are no longer interested:

Unanswered messages and phone calls.

Your phone calls always go straight through to voice mail or message bank.

“We need to talk”.

“It’s not you, it’s me.”

“We just aren’t in the same place right now.”

“I’m too busy for a relationship right now.”

Effective and Fast Brush Off Lines:

I want to get married and have your baby as soon as possible.

I think I might be gay.

Ultimately, the most effective and the most polite way of giving your online dating friend the brush off is to use a little tact and honesty. Too much tact, though, and they may not get the hint. Try to be honest in a constructive way. The easiest rule for online dating brush offs is to keep it simple and don’t make a fuss.