Confessions of Every Man’s “Dream Woman

According to Michael P. Johnson, professor of sociology at Penn State, there are three things that keep a person in a marriage: people want to stay, they feel they ought to stay, and/or they have to stay. This combination of personal, moral, and structural commitment serves to keep people in marriages.

Notice that commitment keeps people in marriage–not happiness. Dr. Ted Huston of the University of Texas Austin studied couples from courtship to marriage. His ten-year-plus study exploded many popular misconceptions about love. For example, he found that many recently wed couples did not experience newlywed bliss; in fact, couples whose marriages began with “Hollywood romance” intensity soon burned out. A couple expecting wedded bliss every day of their lives was actually more likely to divorce than a couple with a less exciting relationship, because they were more likely to consider divorce when those intense feelings subsided. Does that mean that less exciting, even lackluster relationships last? They do indeed, perhaps because they have less far to fall.

Research shows that unhappy periods in a marriage are not indicative of future unhappiness. In fact, one study showed that 86% of unhappily married couples who stayed with their marriage were happier five years later–three fifths of whom were “quite” or “very happy.”

According to the 2004 “State of Our Unions” report by the National Marriage Project, the percentage of married people 18 or older who said that their marriage was very happy has declined over the last quarter century, from about 69% in the mid 1970s to 64% for men and 60% for women today. That’s less than two-thirds of the married population who considers themselves very happy in their relationship. Clearly, you don’t have to be blissfully in love or very happy for your relationship to last. What do you need?

It’s not love and luck. It’s commitment and companionship. Commitment means that you have powerful personal, moral, and structural reasons to stay in the relationship. Companionship means that you and your partner form a unified team against whatever challenges life hands you. Team members may fight, disagree, and encounter stalemates, but they know that their happiness and satisfaction in life depends on the success of the team–not on their individual success.

When Marriage Fails … Who and How

Contrary to popular belief, it’s not men who seek divorce. It’s women, by an overwhelming majority. The reasons for this are varied. Part of it is the nature of divorce laws; another part is the fact that men tend to have more problems with marriage-destroying behaviors like alcoholism, affairs, and substance abuse, that cause their wives to seek separation.

Divorce is hard on everyone. The damage divorce causes to children is usually worse than the damage caused by living in a two-parent home with marital difficulties. This is contrary to the popular belief that children are better off if their parents divorce rather than live together. Studies show that only in a minority of high-conflict situations is this true.

After a divorce, a woman’s standard of living can be expected to drop while a man’s standard of living may actually improve. Yet men suffer in other ways. Divorced and separated men are two and a half times more likely to commit suicide than married men. This is partially due to the fact that men, unlike women, are less likely to have a strong support network to share their feelings. Whether due to this need for companionship or not, divorced men are more likely to remarry than divorced women, and they’re more likely to remarry sooner.

Who Has the Real Power in a Relationship

Regardless of whether you’re a man or a woman, whether you pay the bills or stay at home, or whether you need your spouse more than your spouse needs you, there is only one person in control of any relationship. That person has the power to turn a relationship around or run it into the ground. And that person usually never realizes how much power he/she wields until it is too late.

That person is you.

You have the choice to either react to the situation you’re in (by complaining about your marriage, allowing yourself to be swamped by negative emotions, or feeling out of control), or to take responsibility and choose your actions. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can hurt you without your consent.”

Even if you cannot change your partner’s behavior, you can choose how you respond to that behavior. You can internalize the blame, the hurt, and the criticism, or you can take responsibility for your own feelings and choose to act the way you want to feel.

Think again about that last concept. You should act the way you want to feel. If you want to feel more loving towards your spouse, act more loving. If you want to feel happier in your marriage, smile more and express gratitude for the good things in your marriage. It’s one of the strangest aspects of human psychology that the more you act the way you want to feel (thankful, peaceful, loving, affectionate, etc.) the more you will begin to feel that way.

Few people realize this. When a marriage begins to crumble, their first instinct is to act out their emotions. They feel hurt, so they lash out. They feel criticized, so they become defensive. They feel vulnerable, so they close up. These are reactions, not actions. Your feelings should NOT make you act in ways that you don’t want to.

You have the power to transform your marriage, even if your partner doesn’t want to. That’s because your behavior has an enormous influence on your partner, to the point that married people actually grow alike over time. We can’t help but pick up our partner’s moods, preferences, and ways of saying certain things. If you transform yourself–your attitude, the way you communicate, how often you show love and affection–your partner will be incapable of resisting. A happy, fulfilling relationship begins with you. And in the next part of this mini-course, I’ll show you how to start achieving it.

For an excellent resource and further information, visit Amy Waterman’s – Save My Marriage Today

Dating & Relationship Advice For Today’s Singles

Online

I’ve been giving free online dating advice because I have two objectives – to make sure you are successful with your online dating, and to make sure you stay safe. For starters, the best online services are nerve.

People

Most people get involved with their exes again, and live happily for a few months. While it used to be that successful matches made online, the ones where marriage resulted, were the things of headlines and tabloids, that’s not the case these days where more and more people are meeting online, forming fast friendships and then turning those connections romances that work.

Date

One of the most recurring mental blocks men face before they date is their eagerness to plunge into a deep, stable and unbreakable relationship. After all, this is your first date and the two of you are getting to know each other.

Person

Dating has often been called a “game” because each person is trying to figure out what the other person wants out of the relationship. There are sites for nearly every type of person and lifestyle out there and you will find at least one that suits you perfectly.

Yourself

- Calm yourself by telling yourself you’re excited, not nervous. In short, I’m talking about opening yourself up to a life that embraces Mr. What’s the point of spending money to join, spending time to write a profile, spending time answering a questionairre, only to eliminate yourself from 95% of those searching for you.

Relationship

In essence, courtship is a word that has been applied to describe the biblical basis for the relationship leading up to marriage. So needless to say, I did not listen to my husband, but thought because I had such an open relationship with my daughter and we had been talking about sex since she was 13 years old that she would never have sex…I was very, very wrong.

Love

Women love to laugh. And they are not as keen on actual jokes as men often are – they prefer spontaneous wit and they love to be gently teased. Women love charm, so long as it is natural, cool and unpretentious.

Meet

Your friends start trying to fix you up and you begin to consider going out to meet new people… of the opposite sex. Online dating and personals sites are great ways to meet a variety of people all over the world, but with such convenience it’s easy to lose control.

Single

Women often grumble about the inventory of single men saying, “There are no good men available. I spoke with eight single men in their 40’s who are members of a local dating service. What percentage of single people find bars and dance clubs a useful way to meet other single people.

Internet

If you ever plan on actually meeting people in person from Internet dating services, then be honest. Online Dating is drawing more and more people to the Internet in search of love, but the abundance of dating sites can be confusing for many.

Friends

Women tend to be more person-centred than men are – they love to have lots of friends – and you should have some women as friends for that reason: they will introduce you to their women friends. It involves the initial contact, the getting to know you, the first meeting, the second and subsequent dates, the first kiss, the first moment of true intimacy, sharing hopes and dreams, introducing friends and family, daily contact, blah, blah, blah.

Services

To-date websites offering dating services whether for the same cultural individuals or not, can be found scattered on the web. The concept of dating services is nothing new; it has a history of its own. Their services remain limited to the circulation of the paper.

Singles

You will find regular Speed Dating events in most major cities up and down these countries, and most singles usually go back for more. With so many singles still afraid to try online dating chances are they could end up staying single.

Dates

Gay males and females can find a plenty of options for dates on these sites. Not only will individuals be able to save some money this way; but they would also be able to impress their dates by including some of their favorite foods in the picnic basket.

Profile

This means you pay to view profiles and to have your profile matched with potential dates. I placed my profile on several sites and surveyed the marketplace. Never include your last name, home address, phone number, place of employment, email address or any other identifying information in your profile or initial messages.

Success

With each ticking second your anticipation grew as you weighed the odds of success versus the usually greater odds of rejection and the added embarrassment of looking like a jerk. Let me tell you how you can get big success on your first date itself.

Questions

Sometimes when I read some questions posted by people on dating on forums, I find curious phenomena. Ask simple questions that will help uncover a person’s passions. Thinking about the answers to these questions and concerns, I came up with a well-received presentation, which I’ll highlight here:

Conversation

The sum of the conversation is that “Christian Dating” is a territory that needs more attention simply because of the secularist ideas of dating that seem to market self- serving motives.

Successful

” Many of these sites boast of thousands of successful matches made in heaven and just as many marriages. If you are considering online dating, there are a few tips that can help make the experience a more enjoyable and successful one.

Speed

New research shows that singletons are flocking to speed dating events across the globe in their quest to find Mr or Ms right. Thinking about trying this new speed dating craze. The course and speed of the game is decided by her.

Message

But what most people don’t realise is that only around 10% of dating site members actually meet a long-term partner on their chosen site and a whopping 70% don’t even receive one message from another member. It’s quick to join them, it’s easy to message someone and because you know they are ‘looking’, you are speaking to someone that you already know is available.

Dating & Relationship Advice To Start You Off

Online

You will always here scaremonger stories of how it isn’t safe, and too many online dating services have fake profiles. Singles all over the world are looking for other avenues to find love, and with our online dating tips, you will be one step closer to meeting your future partner and possible soul mate.

People

Many people fall in love in the beginning because they found the shape of nose to be very cute or the laughter very attractive. This is usually what people see first. In my work as a Marriage and Family Therapist most of my practice has been working with couples, because after experiencing divorce growing up as a child, and again after a ten year first marriage, I decided that my mission is to help people have successful marriages and families, and I thought the best way to do that would be as a marriage counselor.

Date

I am very attracted to a man at work and would like to go out on a date with him. ‘Right,’ my date replied. One bad date does not define who you are.

On the first date be a little cautious about the questions you answer.

Person

It is in man’s nature to find his or her partner in life; unless of course the person has made a commitment to the “Single for Life Club”. The purpose of flirtation is to interest another person in you, so showing them what’s great about you is the way to go.

Yourself

Believing you need to make yourself more appealing to attract a partner. – Calm yourself by telling yourself you’re excited, not nervous. In short, I’m talking about opening yourself up to a life that embraces Mr.

What’s the point of spending money to join, spending time to write a profile, spending time answering a questionairre, only to eliminate yourself from 95% of those searching for you.

Relationship

In essence, courtship is a word that has been applied to describe the biblical basis for the relationship leading up to marriage. So needless to say, I did not listen to my husband, but thought because I had such an open relationship with my daughter and we had been talking about sex since she was 13 years old that she would never have sex…I was very, very wrong.

Meet

The advice that I will be offering you is simple and common sense tips that many singles should already know, or after reading this article, should understand what it takes to meet someone special online. Instead, meet in a public place during daylight hours.

Love

So why not pretend to be one of those experts, and tell them things they love to hear. Women love to hear this, from as many people as possible. Come to think of it, all of us as humans love to live in our own comfort zones.

Single

First Corinthians 7 instructs that single brothers and sisters be permitted to marry. I have one friend who was so jaded with regard to relationships and dating, that she had been single for about 3 years. What do single mothers do about dating when they have children at home?

Internet

Hooking up via the Internet is a common trend these days. An internet dating site with millions of members may sound great, but if only three members live anywhere within 1,000 miles of you, it might not be a good fit.

Services

Well, in the next few minutes you will read a comparison between online and offline US dating services and the writers’ opinion on the best dating services. Yet, there are certain services I would prefer paying for. In the huge pool of internet dating services, there are very decent dating sites with tens of thousands of members rather than millions of profiles, giving much better services than bigger dating sites, who are only concerned with their marketing campaign and their sales.

Friends

These are the friends I know for many years, and to me they seem like the type of people that any men or women would desire and be happy to meet, and date; the typical situation is going on numerous, endless blind and non-blind dates, and getting disappointed and many times crushed.

Singles

Before you attend the next singles event or share emails with someone on Match. Busy legitimate singles with limited time can readily meet other singles with similar interests for friendship, dating, or commitment purposes while online. Date up to twenty enthusiastic singles in one evening of whirlwind dating.

Dates

The perky hostess sympathized, saying that she knew of one successful man who had a rule for the women he dates: Half his age plus seven years. To be able to pick and choose and go through dates like they were calendar pages to be tossed away with each passing day.

Profile

If you have decided to find yourself an ideal partner through online dating sites then making a great profile is one of the first steps to achieve that. How to make your online Profile seductive and what to look for in other people profile to know if they are your type or not.

Success

They don’t think about getting success on the first date. Let me tell you how you can get big success on your first date itself. Yet don’t sabotage your success of possibly getting a yes by having an inner tendency to expect rejection.

Conversation

Confidence, self-perception, and the ability to hold a conversation and make a woman feel comfortable are all-important elements to succeeding with and attracting women. This didn’t require deep and complicated conversation but rather open honest words spoken in love and sincerity revealing the person.

Questions

Ask them questions about what they think about just before talking to a woman. You might like to ask questions like:. That means learning to listen – and to show you are listening by asking appropriate questions and using the right body language.

Speed

New research shows that singletons are flocking to speed dating events across the globe in their quest to find Mr or Ms right. Thinking about trying this new speed dating craze. The course and speed of the game is decided by her.

Successful

” Many of these sites boast of thousands of successful matches made in heaven and just as many marriages. Exuding the alpha male confidence is the first step in successful interactions with women, it’s very simple and isn’t a silly dating game.

Tips On Body Language for Successful Flirting

Male and female courtship signals have been studied, and the basic conclusions are that these signals are completely unconscious. The more you consciously understand the signals, the better and more successful you will be when courting the object of your desire, whether it is the man or woman of your dreams.

To master the art of successful flirting, you have to feel good about yourself first. Be confident. Be yourself, or else you will look deceitful or desperate. Flirting can be utilized in just about anything, not just in attracting the opposite sex, but also in attaining just about anything you want in your life. This can be described as good flirting. Good flirting should be done with a precise understanding of what you really want, coupled with positive sensations.

Here are their tips on how you can put good flirting to your advantage:

1. Don’t worry about whether you are making a good impression or not. Instead, analyze how you can make the other person feel good. By doing this, you will get the feedback you are expecting. Soon you will make the connection.

2. Flirting can help you make friends or impress a client if you make yourself approachable. Put a smile on your face, as it gives you an aura of being friendly.

3. Remember that you cannot attract people just by sitting or standing like a statue. There will be instances when you will encounter a person who gets a little bit too close for comfort feel, or someone who makes you feel you are already invading privacy. No matter what you do, you would get a so-called “vacuum” reaction. Tough one, huh? You can avoid this by using gentle moves and by calibrating the person’s reactions to you. Be aware of these signals: mouths get larger, the lips swell, eyes widen, pupils dilate, skin flushes and changes color, muscles around the mouth move, among others.

4. Be persistent. Flirting works best when you are patient. By being such, you will have room for improvement if at first you aren’t getting the results you want. If you fail the first time, do it again the second time, third time, just keep trying. Try different approaches until you realize what will really work best for you. If you were rejected, don’t give up. This goes with the sayings, “To err is human” and “Nobody’s perfect.”

5. This is probably for me the most interesting and somehow funniest tip I got: “Practice in the mirror, only then can you make it perfect!” This is especially true in meeting friends and prospects, because flirting may involve unwanted actions and attention which can put you in the bad light. You may be spontaneous in your actions, but you can’t guard yourself if you are already overdoing it, and I supposed you don’t want to be in that situation. Try practicing with your close friends and ask for feedback.

6. Make the first move! Opportunities knock only once, so if you want something or even someone, go for it, now! Let go of your inhibitions. But remember to apply positive or good flirting. Who knows if the person you meet at that moment is your gateway towards the fulfillment of your dreams.

Let Your Body Language Do The Flirting

Do you know why some people seem to have an easier time attracting the opposite sex? Here’s what you can to do in order to catch the eye of your Honey Bunch.

1. Smile sincerely and frequently. In his article “The Six Don Juan Commandments of Body Language,” Allen Thompson wrote that smiling is “The simplest, most obvious, and most powerful of the body language commandments.” He also mentions that “Smiling conveys, both instantly and clearly, many wonderful things about yourself. Smiling demonstrates confidence, friendliness, a positive attitude, a good mood, and it gives the impression that you’re someone who is, most likely, fun to be with. It’s also very difficult to ignore.”

2. Have a sense of humor. Learn to laugh at petty matters. People love to be with those who can turn any situation into a funny setting.

3. Maintain eye contact. Your eyes are probably the most expressive parts of your body. When you look at your dear one constantly, you are expressing your sincere intentions. Eye contact also establishes a bond between two persons. They would naturally feel more comfortable in each other’s company.

4. Nod your head. By nodding, you signify your approval and you encourage the other party to continue talking. You give reassurance that your loved one is doing ok.

5. Be open, physically. Do not cross your arms across the chest or hold obstructive objects (such as a food) between the two of you. Put your hands on your sides (and if possible put your palms up) to convey openness.

Fathers should be honored

Now adays fathers are not honored. The good fathers take a bad rap from the bad fathers. The truth is there is alot of hard working, caring and loving fathers out there. We should celebrate father’s day like we celebrate mother’s day.

Make father’s days a special day. Take him out to a baseball game, to a movie. Get him a unique gift. Something that shows he is special. Not just a father’s day card with just a signature.

Let’s not forget about our fathers. They also have to be reminded that they are doing a great job. Fathers are not perfect they also make mistakes. So if he needs to be forgiven, forgive him. What a great father’s day present that would be.

3 Questions To Ask Yourself If You’re Ready To Live Your Dream

One thing potential entrepreneurs continuously ask me is what should I be doing to get started? Should I be researching business ideas? Should I be writing a business plan? Where can I go to get inspiration on a business?

Where I would start is by asking yourself three questions. Now, If I were to ask you these three questions in person, I would ONLY share them with you if you promised to take action. Because if there was any ONE thing that I see lacking with most people who think they want to become wealthy and those who know that they are going to be and that is ACTION.

Here are the three questions you MUST ask yourself in order to make independence your own reality.

1. Are you serious about REALLY living your dream?

2. Are you on the right track to get where you want to be?

3. What can you do today get yourself closer to your dream?

That’s it? You mean that’s all you’re going to give me Benny? C’mon – there has got to be some super-secret recipe that you can tell me that will start me on my way, some ONE thing that will lead me on my path to millions?

One thing that I’ve also learned is that my path is completely different than anybody else’s. I tried to do things exactly as others before had done, and it just doesn’t work. Now, there are some similar things that have been done before and will surely work. But what you want and what somebody else wants are two completely different things. That is why you won’t hear me telling you how to do things.

I learned some time ago that this thing called your “Why” is what gets you going NOT the “How”. There are a ton of books by these so-called gurus that will tell you how to trade stocks, or show you how they made millions by doing an infomercial. I love learning how they did it, but it might not necessarily be for me.

Alright, I hear you out there. Please show me something! Do you really want to make a million dollars or more? Do you want to know a business that will, if you are serious, take time to educate yourself and make smart business moves, you can become successful? Okay, it’s Real Estate. It is time-tested and proven and I have several friends who are worth millions because of real estate.

Tell me , what’s your HONEST reaction? Was it something like “No kidding, I’m doing that already.” , “Oh, I could never fix toilets at 2:00 AM”, “Should I flip houses, buy and rent?” or was is “Real Estate – nah too hard.” The truth is real estate has created thousands of millonaires especially over the last 30 years, and personally, I’ve dipped my toe in it, but it doesn’t excite me. So for many people who are interested in real estate as their passion – this works! For me, I’ll probably buy some more real estate, because I know how to, but it won’t be my primary focus. How about you?

Now go back to the three questions above, it is so easy to glance over the questions, but here’s how you do it. Read question number one. “Are you serious about REALLY living your dream?” What is your life like today? Comfortable? Easy? Predictable? For many, the corporate culture creates an environment of “Just below acceptable”. You do a job that isn’t too hard. You make enough to enjoy life. You have a house, a car or two, take a vacation or two a year and that works. After all, everybody else is in the same boat right? So if you ask the question, are you serious? Many people will just say – NO. Because their lives are fine right now. Because of that fact, you can’t move forward – you’re not ready to go on. So while question number one may seem simplistic, it is the hardest question for MOST people to HONESTLY answer yes to.

Three simple questions. Three honest answers. That’s all it takes to get you started.

Learning How to Let Go

As a self styled phenomenologist I like to break things down to their smallest part. In my day job I also have a natural desire and policy to do less and earn more.

I semi retired seven years ago at the age of 52. I owned a very successful business and was working seven days a week and a short day was 10 hours. I had enough, and lost interest in the business. I closed it down and took a year and a half off.

During this time I set out on my journey of spiritual awareness, and I starting reading books and writing articles. I took on a day job to supplement my savings and income.

My career as a salesman allowed me lots of freedoms to do my writing and manage my web site that was growing bigger and more popular every day. The current writing and web site management take up a lot of my time. For the last five and a half years I have considered my writing and web site as my work and my day job as my paying hobby.

In our sales meetings and in one-on-one meetings with the owner, he has said that any salesman who is not on the job to make money first shouldn’t be in a sales job. He and I have had head to head combat with this philosophy. Although he may be correct in his opinion, he is plainly expressing a limited philosophy in my view. He simply does not understand my philosophy about my job and why I am there.

My present philosophy is really very simple, and is just the different path I like it. My response to his constant question about why I am there is multifold.

I need the divergence so I don’t die in front of my computer, and getting off my butt is a good thing. I need inspiration and an alternate environment-I am on the road four hours a day and in four to six homes five days a week. I am by nature very reclusive and shy, and I go out of my way to avoid people. However in my work, I am just the opposite. People don’t believe me when I tell them how introverted I am. The job provides me the chance to interact with people on their level and in the comfort of their homes. It is the connection I need with others.

Because I specialize in the study of manifesting, my job has given me great opportunity to consider how it works virtually. Over the years I have modified my selling approach many times to try and achieve and maintain my position on the job. I have been a trainer and a supervisor. I have been at the bottom and the top, and I have never been one to remain content with the status quo or to remain in the same position.

The job is a buffet of opportunities for me to write about my experiences and the different individuals I work with. I have run the gammed of emotions on the job. I have been given other opportunities to help and I seldom turn them down when asked.

It is the perfect job for me-not for the money-but for all the other opportunities it brings to me. I have discovered a gold mine, and have gained great insight into how to manifest what I desire.

Finally after nearly six years on the job, I have adapted a philosophy and have made a great discovery about my favourite subject.

The owner and I have made a straightforward agreement about the percentage that he will pay me. I have no issues with that. He has guaranteed me four qualified leads a day and sometimes as many as six. We also agreed I could have more if I wanted them. Between the leads that are generated by the telemarketers, I also receive referrals and office leads (customers who have phoned in).

My job definition is quite very simple-just sell. My new approach as to how I maintain my job and give the boss what he wants is even simpler. I do as little as possible.

I believe if I do my job effectively, I will have all that I desire from it and the bonus reward will be a paycheck that will reflect my initiative. My focus now, as it was in the outset, is not about the money. The money will come when the job is done. I learned over the years to stop counting the money or worrying about how much I have sold and how close I am to getting bonuses and duly achieving my targets. I try not to think about cancellations, break-downs and human error. My new thoughts are-just do the job-the money will come.

I have been able to demonstrate this philosophy and it is working. I am doing less and the money is getting better. I am not trying to control the current situation any longer-in fact I try to forget about the situation and give it little thought. I still have to catch myself periodically from counting or watching over my numbers. Things are happening in my job of which I have no jurisdiction over that is making my job easier.

We are now in the off season for our products and services. The telemarketers are having difficulty supplying the salespeople with leads and we are sitting on the side of the road for hours-waiting. I am now making more money and doing less. I am making money by just sitting on the side of the road waiting for leads.

Because there are now fewer leads, the office manager is phoning previous customers and booking my calls from an old database. The closing rate on these leads is about 85% as apposed to a closing rate of about 50% on the cold calls. He is working harder and I am sitting on the side of the road for most of my shift and earning more money. I have no conscious control over these events. However, at a subconscious level I am participating in the manifesting of them.

I was asked this week not to come into the sales meetings in the morning. I have always been apposed to them as I don’t see them as informative or motivating. When I first started we had a meeting every day. I made so much noise over the years; I got them down to twice a week. Now I don’t have to go in at all. Yesterday I was given the choice to come in or not-it has now become my choice-I think once a week is perfect.

I love this job, it is now working for me, and I am not working for it. I started off working 6 hours a day, six days a week. I am now working four hours a day and five days a week. All the opportunities are there for me-they just keep coming.

There is only one thing I have to do, and that is sell. The job, the money and all the others things I cherish about the job will take care of themselves. They will not, only when I try to control them. As far as the money goes, I have a clear desire about what I require to receive at the close of the pay period. Between the beginning of the pay period and the end of it, I will do little to try and control how I get it.

My philosophy is working-the boss gets what he wants in the end, and so do I. It’s the perfect marriage. This article, hundreds more, and my books are all an outcome of this philosophy. It has been the greatest gift from my job. It is worth much more than the money I am earning.

My success is manifested by a desire and my own unique perspective. This philosophy may not work for others. There are some who would completely disagree with what I have written, and yet I am living proof that it has worked.

We are all great manifesters, few of us realize it, and once we try to understand the process our thoughts often get in the way of how it should work. We trip over our own feet. Keep it simple-do your job and take advantage of the opportunities which you are drawing to yourself.

If I was really wise, I would stop writing about these things. Just the very act of writing about it, changes it. Being true to my nature I must look deeper and by doing so, I am going to stick my foot in my mouth. However, this is going to create another opportunity for another article.

By doing less in my job and earning more, I have created the opportunity to do more with my writing and that is what I enjoy the most. I have also become more aware of opportunities and choices.

It is important to understand that by doing less, I don’t mean being irresponsible. I simply mean if you take full responsibility for your job and know the results of your work, it will bring you what you desire-you will work less and earn more.

If you try to maintain control of the steps to your goal-you will eventually lose site of it. If you let go, the probable opportunities will come to you, and then it is simply about making good choices.

Some health professionals are of the opinion that people dating online are falling in love from the inside out, and are expressing their deepest passions and beliefs prior to even disclosing basic details such as their name or location.

Case studies published by Dr. Esther Gwinnell reveal how many men and women who chat online, will often share many of their personal life secrets prior to meeting offline.

One particular case study published by Dr. Gwinnell entails details of Elizabeth Copperfield, a 26 year old school teacher from New York City, who crossed paths with her now husband whilst online dating. Elizabeth posted a few messages on a blog and was promptly replied to by a man from Australia. The ensuing weeks saw the pair divulge personal information about each other that would normally be reserved for the closest of friends or family. Nearly 3 months had passed when they swapped phone numbers. Brian waited apprehensively at Sydney’s international airport for Elizabeth to clear customs, in what would be their very first face to face exchange.

We hear so many tragic stories and bad press regarding love gone wrong on internet singles sites, although Brian and Elizabeth went on to marry and are currently living at St Albans, near London. Real life case studies such as those published by Dr. Gwinnell certainly shows us that not everyone gets conned when they sign up to online dating.

Further research into the behaviors of online singles have found that 3 distinct groups of people use online dating sites.

1/ Sex: People feel protected and secure when chatting or flirting online, hence, the very reason why we are so willing to divulge just about anything, it gives us a false sense of fantasy and self assurance, and prolonged online interaction with an individual will almost certainly raise sexual tension.

2/ Relationships: Of course though, sex and online dating doesn’t necessarily have to go hand in hand. If you’re online to find a long term partner, it’s really just a matter of researching the appropriate dating site that brands itself as romance, relationships and love.

3/ Con artists: Make no mistake, if you put yourself out there in cyberspace, there is every chance you will be approached by a lonely hearts con artist who will try to gain your trust, then approach you for a cash loan or similar – research anyone you meet online – you need to know who they are – don’t trust anyone on face value.

There are many thousands of appealing singles profiles that are on offer on dating sites, learn how to achieve the best results and get noticed in the busy chat rooms.

It’s human nature to have a fear of rejection. Initiating a conversation with complete strangers can be very daunting. Chat rooms offer you an environment allowing you to chat to someone without the fear of real life rejection granting you a means of exploring multiple opportunities to establish a connection with potential dates. By having access to other peoples profiles you can easily assess the potential chemistry and make an informed decision before striking up a conversation with someone in the chat rooms.

* Chat rooms offer protection.

When you chat online and you decide it’s appropriate to end a conversation, simply say good bye. It’s a lot easier ending an online chat as opposed to being trapped for hours at the dinner table when on a blind date. Chatting online removes the awkwardness of real life dating and puts you in control of any situation. If someone is making un wanted advances in a chat room, just block that user from contacting you, it’s much easier than having to put up with someone that won’t leave you alone at a bar.

* Sit back and unwind.

Where else other than a chat room can you flirt with someone whilst still in your night wear. No one needs to know that you’re still in your underwear or bathrobe. Or after work there’s no need to rush into the bathroom and freshen up before you start to chat. Online dating can be a very private or public way of putting yourself out there and is far less intimidating than conventional dating options.

Settle your nerves and gather your thoughts before you enter the chat rooms with a glass of wine or a beer. And given that you’re at home in a secure and familiar environment, chances are you will come out of your shell and gain more confidence each time you log on.

* Plenty of fish in the sea!

The thought of rejection is possibly THE biggest thing holding many singles back from successful dating. Online dating is like window shopping in that you have the benefit to explore your options and weigh things up before you make your move on someone. Stroll through the singles profiles while you watch the online conversation all before one word is spoken – you will know when the time is right to make your presence known. If your advances are not reciprocated with someone you fancy, close that door and open another – plenty of online singles in the sea.

* Be unique

Chat rooms allow members to privately exchange photos and images outside their public online dating profile. Show someone just how great you think they are by emailing them your favourite song, a poem or a baby photo of yourself, for example. People will respond if you treat them in a special and individual way.

Brush up on your wit, humor and charm. Expose your true potential and personality when chatting online, people will notice, everyone is there looking for something that grabs their attention, and as you become more familiar with your chat peers you will soon become an identity within your chat group gaining a popular reputation and opportunities will soon come knocking.

See us for the latest dating tips and where to find the singles hotspots and to improve your social life.

Many men look at beautiful women and secretly wish that they had the looks or the riches to be able to woo them. A vast majority of men do not try to approach a woman they are interested in dating for fears of rejection. Many fail to be able to pick the woman they are eyeing as they have followed the wrong approach in trying. For all such men who have failed at dating, there comes an ebook called Double Your Dating that is bound to help you improve your approach and land you with enough dates with chicks of any kind.
The book Double Your Dating is written by David DeAngelo in the year 2001 and this was created as a personal diary initially to improve his chances at getting girls out on dates. He then circulated his findings among his friends and later wrote a second edition to the book in the year 2005 which is the current ebook that is available to you.
Although Double Your Dating is only about 90 pages long, it is filled with information that is gold to people who wish to have success in the dating scene. The ebook is well structured and divided into various chapters and makes for interesting reading as the author presents every aspect of the book in a straight and casual tone.
Double Your Dating begins with a chapter that covers basically the way in which the mind of women work and how best your knowledge about the functioning of the female mind can be used to fetch some gains to your benefit.
In the next part, Double Your Dating deals with the way in which men should be communicating with women. This forms an important and very good learning experience for people who often do many mistakes in the way in which they communicate with women. The part also deals with the necessity of having a good sense of humor when it comes to communication with women as the author states that this is one of the most important qualities one should develop. David discusses about how body language that communicates the confidence level of the individual plays an important role during communication.
The second part of Double Your Dating also deals with the ways in which a person can build up an irresistible personality that is totally not dependent on the looks or the status of the individual. This part also deals with aspects like developing skills of flirting with women and learning the art of attraction.
The final part of the ebook deals with the way in which one can improve their chances for meeting women and how to go about making a start and how to conduct oneself during the initial encounter. The best part of the book is that there are some activity instructions one needs to follow after every part of the book that helps in sizzling down fears associated with dating and to improve the level of experience one needs in gaining more confidence.
Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo comes to you at an irresistible and cheap price of $19.99, a price for which you are also provided some bonuses like three booklets named Sex Secrets, Bridges – How to Go from one Step to the Next and The 8 Personality Types that Naturally Attract Women that adds more information and improves your knowledge on various issues. You are also provided a 4 CD pack containing his interview series known as Interviews with Dating Gurus.

They really wont cost you one cent! When you decide your social life needs some improvement and you would ultimately like to meet someone special, free online dating sites will improve the amount of social contacts available for you to meet and all the while saving you money on alternative social options.

Compare the free sites to the paid sites. There are also many online dating sites that are not free. However you will notice that almost all of the paid sites advertise themselves with many so called free features. Any dating site will allow you to join for free. Simply joining a dating site for free doesn’t always allow you to access all the sites features for free. Singles who join online dating sites should be made aware that the paid sites usually have different levels of access depending on what type of membership you purchase.

Dating sites often charge a small subscription for an entry level membership which allows singles to initiate contact with other singles but limiting them to only one or two messages per week. Entry level memberships usually only allow a small amount of time per day for their members to chat in the adult chat rooms and can be very frustrating if your making good head way with someone you fancy only to be cut off because your time allowance for the day has run out. So ultimately, you will be forced to upgrade to an expensive premium membership in order to be able to fully utilize the dating sites features and to have unrestricted access. Until you upgrade to a premium membership you will also have limited access to view other singles profiles.

More singles to choose from. As there are no costs involved with joining a free adult dating site, the single people out there are more eager to give online dating ago. There is simply no down side. There is no risk of getting ripped off and they offer their members a large pool of singles to meet and chat to. There is no limit to the amount of members you can initiate contact with nor is there a rigorous process members need to undertake in order to qualify. Just sign up and unlock the door to a sea of online singles.

Why do we need paid dating sites? In order for the free dating sites to exist, its paramount that the paid dating sites retain a large amount of the market share. Why? By this stage of the article you may have asked yourself how the webmasters of the free dating sites get paid. They make their money by advertising the services of paid sites. When you are browsing a free dating site you will notice adverts that link to paid dating sites. When you click through to these adverts, the free site owners are paid a commission.

Take as long as you like. Other great benefits you get by joining a free site is that there is no pressure to rush in to make the most of your membership without fear of your subscription expiring. Spend as much time or as little time online that suits your lifestyle.

There are few industries openly available for anyone to use for free so take advantage of free online dating and discover how the best things in life are free.

“Initial fears that people have with planning the music and entertainment for their event are reasonable, as it is an integral part of the event and can even be part of the main focus. There are many factors to consider when planning your entertainment, not only whether the act you are booking for your event will suitably entertain your guests, or fit within your budget or them;, but you also need to consider whether they will be reliable and professional. In the worst case scenario we have heard of cases where artists have failed to turn up on time or cancelled without giving enough time to book another act in their place. Even if they do arrive, how do you know that they are going to be as good as their demo or showreel? And this is all on top of the rest of the event planning process of organizing catering, a venue or conference facility, florists, guest invitations, transportation, accommodation… need I go on? It can be a very daunting task.”

With this in mind, here are the key elements to think about to help get you started:

The Venue

When booking the venue it is important to check that they have the appropriate entertainment licence and the conditions of their licence including the type of entertainment they are allowed (some venues are not permitted to have amplified music), finishing/get out times, performance area size/space restrictions, if they have any noise restrictions (such as sound limiters), access times for the band/artist, power supply etc.

If you are considering a speciality act that uses fire or pyrotechnics, you also need to make sure that this is permitted in the venue.

These points are always good to know early on as this may dictate the kind of entertainment you can look for. For example, some venues have sound limiters that cut out sound automatically when it goes over a certain volume, so if you have booked a band, this can damage their equipment and most importantly can disrupt the whole evening.

However, all is not lost, even with a limitation on sound, there are still many acts that can be employed such as acoustic artists, but knowing this in advance will help you narrrow your search or review your venue.

Band Hunting

So you know have an idea of the kind of act your venue will accommodate, lets go and look for your entertainment.

Armed with the information acquired from the venue you can now approach the artists, but where do you look? Well, there are a few options available to you:

Option 1 – Search the internet. You can do a search for a certain type of artist/ band, listen to their website demos or watch their showreel and contact the artist directly. Although many artists have their own website, a great website does not necessarily mean a great artist. So not only can this method be quite simply mind numbing and time consuming, it is also a bit of a lottery if you are booking an artist you have never heard of.

Option 2 – Go on recommendation. This can narrow down your search quite fast, but do remember that colleagues may not have the same tastes and what one person may think is great might not be ideal for the guests attending your event.

Option 3 – Go to an agent. There are lots of agencies out there, (I should know, I am own one of them.) Obviously there is going to be a fee increase for this service, (normally between 15- 20 % ) but, if the agency is a reputable one they should be able to earn their commission by verifying the acts and their ability, negotiating their fee to meet your budget, contracting the artist (more on that later) and communicating to the artist exactly what you need.

A note on professionalism. Many people place an importance on the performance but it is important not to overlook the other elements involved with booking an act/band for example, the way they conduct themselves both on and off stage, their dress code and also making sure they turn up in plenty of time etc.

Things to ask the band/act

Whether you are going through an agent or directly to the artist, the questions are still the same.

Here is important information you need to know about the artist:

Availability:

You must first check that the artist is available on the date of your event and that they are happy to travel to the event location.

How long will the artist perform for:

Performance times will vary depending on the kind of act you are booking and the event you are holding.

There are so many different possibilities depending on your requirements, but to give you an example, a typical live performance by a function band would be something like the following:

2 x 1 hour live sets (I like to include CD music in between and up to 45 mins after the performance)

Or

3 x 45 mins live sets (again with the bands would be quite happy to provide CD music in the price)

Act/Band styles

Some artists are available as a ‘walkabout’ act as well as a stage act and some bands can perform as an acoustic duo or trio, as well as a full party band.

If you have a larger event then you may wish to have a reception performer when the guests arrive or are eating lunch/dinner. This could be a walkabout act, close-up magician or acoustic duo or trio band.

We have supplied many events with walkabout Mexican Mariachi bands, acoustic Hawaiian trio band, close-up magicians, human statues and Gypsy jazz musicians. It’s an upbeat and fun start to the evening before the main act, as well as a brilliant ice-breaker if your guests don’t know each other.

The latter part of the event can then incorporate a stage show or band for dancing, either using an artist from earlier or a different artist altogether.

Repertoire:

If you are booking a band, you should be able to get a sample set list from the band. I generally advise my clients to let the artist gauge the event as to what songs are played but within your initial enquiries it gives you a great idea of what they can do.

Fees:

Once the artist has all your requirements, they will then be able to quote you formally.

The fee you are quoted will be dependent on the location of the event, the performance you require, what day of the week your event is being held and the time of year your event is being held.

Barter!!

Don’t be afraid to barter, most artists/agents are happy to negotiate their fee, as every event is different.

The Booking

Let us assume you have narrowed down a selection of acts, what next?

If you have decided on the artist you wish to book, but you need to get the go ahead from your MD or person paying for the event, it would be recommended to ask the band to hold that date for you.

Most artists will be happy to pencil in a date for you if you require time to make a firm decision about booking. This ensures that they won’t take another booking while you’re in the decision making process.

Deposits and contracts

Any reputable band or artist will insist on a contract to be signed by all parties once you confirm your booking. This should include all of the information that both sides have agreed to.

More often than not, the contract will also include a requirement for you, as the client, to provide refreshments and lockable changing facilities/dressing room for the artist during their time spent at your event.

You may also be sent an artist rider with the contract which is a list of artist requirements that you will be expected to provide as a courtesy.

Things to confirm within the contract:

Artist Name (making sure that the performers are the same ones as the demo/showreel!)

Location for the artist to appear

Date of performance

Time for arrival and set up of the artist

Performance times

Fee and payment terms (i.e deposits and payment due dates)

Artist contact number

Cancellation terms

Any special requirements regarding the performance/venue/guests or artist rider

As soon as you have signed and returned the contract and paid your deposit, your booking is confirmed.

The artist should be able to contact you a week before the performance to confirm any changes that you might have and you can rest assured that you have done all you can to make your event a night to remember.

Some of the problem today’s busy singles encounter is finding the time and motivation to pursue a love life. Internet dating and chat rooms offer busy people the chance of beating the time restraint challenges in main stream society.

Often after a hard week at work, many of us just feel like relaxing and forgetting about our daily challenges. Mustering up the energy to go to bars searching for singles after a long week is difficult to sustain week in week out. Family duties also minimize our free time and also reduce opportunities to meet singles.

There really is no excuse these days not to utilize modern day technologies and try chat rooms and internet dating. Participating in chat rooms and internet dating to find singles totally eliminates many issues that hinder our opportunities to meet singles within main stream society. There is no longer time issue restraints as the internet permits us to chat to many people in a short space of time. Members can browse through profiles and get right down to the nitty gritty.

So why does internet dating have the tag of desperation or isolation? Its a stigma which seems to have stuck however many singles these days are not perturbed or put off by judgmental people who consider themselves above the internet dating concept. Some would have us think that if you are not able to pick up a guy or girl without a very cool pick up line to impress your friends whilst out at a club, then you must be a loser for using internet dating and chat rooms. People with this way of thinking can sometimes be associated with having a materialistic view on life.

A lot of singles new at internet dating say that this avenue of meeting singles has sharply elevated their social circles and sex lives. Chat rooms offer the user the chance to assess their latest internet friend within minutes and takes away the awkwardness of having to sometimes tell them your not their type face to face. Chat rooms allow you to be sure there is a mutual attraction prior to meeting in real life. The feeling of rejection is some what reduced when mingling on an internet dating site.

Whilst the non internet dating singles who consider themselves to cool to utilize this fantastic and easy to use social tool, the internet dating scene is growing in popularity and time restricted singles are finding happiness.

Access is another advantage that makes internet dating attractive. There are hundreds of dating sites on the internet and some are even free to use. Realistically, online dating is here and its here to stay and anyone can do it, so for certain people who are too proud to join up they are truly eliminating a massive singles market.         

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How many of you have gone to desperate measures for a date? C’mon now – fess up. People will go to extremes when they want to shed their lonely single life, but you can gain valuable dating advice from many experts. Much of this advice is either free or very inexpensive as well as easy to obtain. For example, after learning about people like David DeAngelo the dating guru, you may ask yourself is he the real deal?

If you haven’t heard of this man, you should get yourself acquainted with him ASAP. He is the author of the e-book entitled “Double Your Dating – What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women”. The guide is written in a fun, informal manner and provides 9 different chapters within 3 parts. Part 1 is entitled “How To Think About Success With Women, Part 2 is entitled “How To Communicate With Women” and Part 3 is entitled “Exactly What, When, And How”.

Well, you should get a copy of this book and learn from David DeAngelo, the dating master. He will answer questions you have probably been dying to ask, but didn’t know who to ask. Topics of every nature are covered from the underlying motives of women and how men usually find women to personality traits that attract women and signs that a woman is interested. If you are currently single, you should check the book out and learn some helpful tips. If you are already in a relationship, why not peruse the book and keep a copy just in case things don’t go so well later on.

Many other books and guides have been written about the subject of dating. However, David DeAngelo, the dating guru, manages to cover a wide range of topics in his 90-page book. If you aren’t happy with what you read, you aren’t taking a very big risk. You can always explore some of the many others so-called dating experts that have become very popular lately. If you are strict with yourself about following some of the advice in the various books, you are sure to see positive results. You just need some patience. After all, Rome wasn’t built in a day, so you can’t expect your dating situation to improve instantly and gain instant gratification.

If you are frustrated with your current dating situation, take advantage of the years of experience shared by people like David DeAngelo, the dating guru. Refer to the book as often as you need to and don’t get frustrated. Persistence is the key when learning how to master the mysterious and exciting world of dating and seduction.

Online dating addiction is something that is increasing, and health professionals are reporting record numbers of addicts seeking help. Shrinking disposable incomes are being blamed as the main reason alarming numbers of online singles are becoming addicted.

Large numbers of people are switching to online dating for sex and relationships compared to conventional means of socializing such as bar hopping. Why? because online dating is either dirt cheap or 100% free, and just because people have run out of money doesn’t mean their desire to hook up has wavered. Quite the opposite in fact, Professor Buckley from Monash University and the Sex/Wellness Research Centre tells us ” Our questionnaire to both our students and their family members who are aged under 28 years of age and who are single were asked whether their social behaviours had changed since the recession impacted the economy”.

Out of the 728 respondents, bars, night clubbing, private parties and social functions were frequented by 78% of singles under 28 years of age (14% chose online dating) as their instinctive social alternative, pre-recession. Unfortunately, and with 7 million American’s out of work, blowing hundreds of dollars on a single night out on the town is simply no option.

It is also no option for our youth to stop advancing their opportunities to find a partner or to find sex, and since the recession kicked in, the internet is now what 61% of our randy respondents chose as their primary method of meeting people.

Online dating can be rather consuming. It’s very easy to grow into a habit of checking your dating site for new messages multiple times a day. And thus, you are a candidate for online dating addiction. A five minute scan of your new messages can so easily turn into several hours of replying to new messages etc and if one of your friends sees that you’re online, you can also get side tracked in live chat rooms – hang on, I was only checking my messages – five hours later!

Another big mistake online singles are making is joining multiple online dating sites to increase their chances of more dates. All that happens with this scenario is that you end up soaking up all your time managing your presence on the various sites instead of using your time diligently short listing suitable singles on just one dating site.

People addicted to online dating need to prioritize their lives to include more balance and make strict time lines when they are online and avoid becoming obsessed with it. Work out what you want. Whether you are only in it for sex or are looking for romance, don’t waste your precious time chatting to and emailing other members you are engaging just for the sake of it.

You will have far more success with online dating if you know when to move on to the next person, or whether it’s even worth replying to some messages at all.