Archive for October, 2009

31 OctThe Internet & Online Dating Sites – the Good and the Bad

The good.

 Today’s singles and most people, generally speaking, are very lucky with the online choices they have compared to 10 or 20 years ago given the options the internet now offers them. 20 years ago there were far less online options than are available now days. Mobile phones are a good example of how far the internet has progressed in recent years. Several decades ago paging services or cb radios were the fastest way to contact someone when they were not at home. Today though, mobiles are used to carry out several non related functions, the actual mobile itself is just one of many features. Mobiles can be used as a video camera, surfing the internet, gps device and online dating. That right online dating…..will technology ever slow down ? I doubt it! Today’s singles can experience online dating not only from their pc and laptop but also from their mobile meaning they can organize a date 24/7 anywhere, anytime.

 Another excellent advantage online dating has is the capability for singles to get right down to business and sift through the thousands member profiles until someone catches their eye. No need to feel guilty by having to tell your new internet friend your not interested, you simply move onto the next profile. Chat rooms commonly provide singles another fantastic way of communicating with other singles and still allows you an easy out if need be.

 No need to spend money or even dress up to go internet dating. Some dating sites offer free online dating its just a matter of searching through the many dating sites on the internet to find them, so locating the ultimate in happiness doesn’t even need to cost you one single cent. Cancel your hairdressers appointment, for the females that is, not that its not okay for the males to book in at the hairdressers although if you are a guy who’s just signed up to an online dating site, admitting to booking in for a new hair do may not sit all that well with the girls you chat to online. Forget the make up and after shave, online dating gives you the chance to win over your next date with just your personality alone via the chat rooms.

 Short of time? Does your job hold you back from getting out and socializing? Search for like minded singles in the chat rooms or via the member data base in a matter of minutes, fire off emails and chat invitations to those you find attractive, then simply go back to your normal daily routine. Check back online during the day or several days later and you may have a nice surprise waiting for you in your messages.

 The bad.

 Some singles can become too reliant on using online dating sites and can end up socially separated from real life social possibilities. For those who fall into this category should be careful that you don’t lose important social skills by relying on online dating services too often. Use it but try not to abuse it. Like anything in life, participate in online dating, but in moderation.

 Singles interviewed in studies conducted by Professor Parnizky from Macintosh University who claim to being addicted to online dating said that their first thought was to log on to a dating site in search of love, rather than to venture out offline to put themselves in a situation where they could possibly meet with other singles in the offline world. These same singles mainly indicated that they felt they were losing and had all but lost touch with finding a romantic partner conventionally.

 A regular complaint online dating members spoke of was that when they met their online dating friend in person, certain physical features were some what different to what was stated on their member profile. Their photos were not current, or were taken in a studio or sometimes wasn’t even them.

 For those thinking about online dating, don’t get too hung up with this dating option and use these services to your advantage but don’t over do it. Treat it as some fun and don’t have alot of expectations, this is the best way to approach online dating and you just never know what you may find.      

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31 OctDangers Faced by Singles When Using Online Dating

There are thousands of real and honest singles using online dating sites throughout the world. Online dating offers singles a convenient way to find romance although their are some dangers associated with online dating. To stay safe when meeting strangers on the internet there are some guidelines singles should should keep in mind to avoid certain dangers that are of real concern. There are rising reports of fraud and even violent situations occurring from online dating meetings.

48% of singles who have signed up for online dating for the first time do so as result from recent relationship failures and are considered targets by internet dating fraudsters. This group of singles are at high risk of being scammed or used for satisfying the needs of online criminals who have hidden agendas. The promise of sex, love and comfort finds many singles within this demographic at high risk of falling prey to online scammers.

Here are a few examples of real life stories of vulnerable singles that have given their trust to online scammers only to have their lives torn apart.

  Recent activities reported by authorities claim that a 56 year old man from a Canada fell in love with a charming single women (or so he thought) from Wellington, New Zealand. The man and women began to chat online for a number of weeks through webcam chat when the man was lulled into a false sense of security believing this women’s advances were genuine.

Investigations by authorities from the two countries where the scam was eventually picked up discovered  this web cam chat women offered promises of love and to re-locate to various cities of up to a dozen vulnerable and lonely men worldwide before swindling them and extracting what is estimated to be more than 900,000.00 US dollars.

A recent report from a city in India tells of a gang of internet dating scammers that were arrested for luring lonely singles to secluded areas and kidnapping them for a number of days only to let them go when the crooks had exhausted all ways of stealing as much of their victims money resources as possible. The internet scammers would methodically select online dating profiles from dating services they judged to be wealthy singles and deemed vulnerable, then befriend them to gain their trust.

Online dating continues to be a very successful and common way for singles to meet and find relationships, however singles need to be warned of the lengths criminals will go to for their own hidden agendas. Below are 5 important stay safe guidelines singles need to consider before they agree to meet strangers off the internet.

1/ DO NOT send money overseas under ANY circumstances to singles you have met online.2/ Don’t offer personal details such as work details, home address or your children’s personal details.3/ Its important meet in a public place never in an secluded area.4/ If you are contacted by an online dating member that is offering you their love and loyalty prior to exchanging emails this could be a spam email that has been sent to hundreds of other online dating users.5/ Compile as much information as you can regarding this person to substantiate they are for real.

 Singles are best served searching for love on the internet in their local area. There are far less cases of love going wrong when locals meet through online dating. More than 93% of crimes relating to online dating originate in foreign countries.      

31 OctOnline Dating Coach Reveals His Amazing Secrets to Meeting Fascinating Singles on the Internet

At the end of a long day at work, what better way to enjoy the evening than to share it with your heart’s companion – your Soulmate. Not only is having a love relationship a healthy way to live, but you’ll feel more fulfilled as a person too.As an Online Dating Coach, I’ve had the pleasure of working with clients worldwide. People just like you have contacted me from all over the world wanting online dating advice… with the ultimate goal of finding their Soulmate – no matter where he or she may be living. In the global community we all live in today, connecting with and meeting singles online is the most natural thing imaginable.Today I’ll be your Dating Coach while I share some helpful online dating tips. With my online dating advice to guide you, learning how to find your Soulmate through online dating can be fun and easy – so let’s get started!A Dating Coach Offers some Tips for SuccessOne of your first and most important decisions is your commitment to joining an online dating service. Whether you join a large dating site with millions of members, or a dating service that targets matches within a smaller niche, your online dating success will, to a large extent, be the result of how well your Online Dating Profile is written. With this in mind, here are the first steps to finding your Soulmate.First, make a commitment to joining one or more paid dating services, each of which has enough members living in your general vicinity so you’ll have a variety of prospective Soulmates to choose from.As your Dating Coach, I’ll help you create your Online Dating Profile, since this will become your “Online Dating Brochure” and “calling card.”Then, decide who you would truly like to meet. Your online dating services can help you to some extent, but always keep in mind that you’re using computer matching for your introductions. Therefore, to take full advantage of the technology, it would be helpful to first understand how it works! Online Dating services match their clients by performing both a keyword search, as well as a simple match of the preferences you’ve assigned in your Online Dating Profile. When the online dating services ask you to select your “interests and hobbies” for example, you’ll be much better off selecting as many of them as you can while still being truthful. Let’s say, for example, that under “interests and hobbies” you have 25 options to choose from. If you select only one of them, then you’ll be matched with site members who have made that one selection too. Computer matchmaking works by matching the words or phrases from your dating profile with those of other members within your chosen age range and geographic area, while applying your preferences for height, hair color, drinking and smoking habits, and so on. So one of the secrets to getting more matches is to be more flexible with the options you choose, just like in the example I’ve given.Finally, and most important of all, to take full advantage of the online dating services you join, whether you’re a man or a woman, take the initiative and send some letters of introduction – and if possible, do this every day. Don’t expect the online dating services to do all of the work! My best advice to you as your dating coach is to become pro-active – and be responsible for your success!My Dating Coach AdviceYou really can find your Soulmate on the Internet. So just take a deep breath, make a decision that you WILL succeed, and then get the ball rolling! Today more than 25% of single adults use online dating services, and within the next five years, this number is predicted to double. Will YOU find your Soulmate through Online Dating? To a large extend, the decision is up to you!

31 OctDating Books: Great eBooks with Top Dating Tips

When you’re looking for a date, and want to learn what you can do to increase your chances of finding the right person without having to waste time going out with people you have little or nothing in common with, the best thing you can do is to read up on what professionals and experts have to say on the subject.
Books can be expensive, although there are some such as “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” that can answer a lot of life’s puzzling relationship questions regarding why women think men don’t get it, while men think it’s women who don’t have hold of the right handle. There’s a less expensive way of getting some insight into why members of the opposite sex act the way they do, and advice on top dating tips however, and that’s through eBooks.
A number of websites offer eBooks that will help you with your dating issues, and many of these are relatively inexpensive. You probably won’t find them on the New York Times bestseller list, but they aren’t going to require a bank loan to buy either — and the beauty of these eBooks is that generally you can download them instantly after you-ve completed the payment process.
Some of the dating eBooks currently for sale include:
“Dr. Dating’s Great Dating Tips” — don’t be put off by the title, you’re not looking for top literature here, just practical advice!
“Guide to Online Dating’ — if you’re planning to venture out into the world of Internet dating it’s worth taking a look at a couple of online dating eBooks so that you get some idea of what you should and shouldn’t do when getting started on a cyber-dating experience.
“Internet Dating for Men” — this one is geared specifically at the guys. Most information online is aimed at helping women find love over the Internet, but this one provides a roadmap that’s specifically for men (and it’s written by a woman so guys are getting the insider’s viewpoint!
“Dating Success Manual for Women” was written from research conducted with hundreds of women, this one should be worth a look.
“Healthy Dating and Relationship Tips” — body language, small ads, online dating, communication skills, this book covers the lot!
There are quite a number of free reports/eBooks that you can download from the Internet that can help you with your search for a date. Some of these are offered by the online dating sites, but can be downloaded without any obligation to sign up for their services. Download the material from a number of sources before you sign up with any particular website — remember if a site is offering a publication, it’s probably promoting its own service as being best so you need to compare what their report states against those from other sites.
Before buying an eBook that looks as if it might give you the dating tips that you’re looking for, make a search for the title on Google to see if other online sources sell the book — as with paper books bought in a store, prices can vary for the same product so it’s worth shopping around!

31 OctResearch Shows Online Dating Gives Singles Confidence

Many people use online dating sites to overcome shyness and insecurity before testing the waters in the offline world.

When two scientists representing Perth’s Murdoch University got together to research the world of online dating introductions they discovered some interesting statistics. The research involved several focus groups of online dating site members and online dating past users. 

Their studies discovered that having such a big sea of online dating singles to choose from gave even the most insecure singles a huge confidence lift. The possibility of meeting and being chosen by other attractive dating members, who were openly available, assisted them to put aside their feelings of insecurity. 

“With internet online dating, members have more choices, they have the opportunity to be more selective and their level of confidence rises, they’re not only relying on appearances and confidence to meet people” quotes Dr Kirsty Best who conducted the studies with colleague Sharon Demelge. “Also, this isn’t just finishing at the computer screen, it’s the attitude online internet daters are taking with them into the real world. A single woman who may have at one time or another sat and listened to a boring guy in a bar because she thought her options were closed might now be more likely to excuse herself from the conversation as she knows that she can look around elsewhere” Dr Best says to the telegraph.   ”Whilst the numbers are massive with respects to the amount of members joining online dating sites, the biggest challenge is the sifting through them all. Like any well stocked department store, successful internet online dating sites make it simple for singles to track down exactly what they are looking for. Few have time to sort through the clearance bins of love for the right fit. Security procedures, virtual dates and other detailed searching criteria are ways some sites are using to assist their members find the right match. The hardest issue used to be the introduction part – that’s what friends playing match maker, computer chat, pre-arranged weddings and the dance were all about” Dr Best suggests. In some ways however, many online dating singles who use sites too often can end up missing out on many potential matches. The research showed that they used an in house selection system to weed out those unsuitable matches. This same selection method though often sidelines many perfect matches as the artificial constraints do not take into account information not held online.   Andrew, one of the study participants quoted in the daily telegraph said “I got the distinct feeling, it’s a lot like shopping, they’re thinking he’s rather nice, but let’s see if there’s anyone better emailing or smsing me”. Dr Best predicts that singles will become less likely to be happy with just one person, becoming like fashionists who will not buy a pair of shoes until they have looked at every shoe in the store. Of course with so many online daters to select from, that could take forever. The trick to successful online dating is to stop when you find someone that feels right and not think that a better deal is just one click away.  

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31 OctUsing an Online Dating Coach to Find Love, Happiness… and Even Find Your Soulmate!

In this age of technology, where you find yourself faced with more time-saving devices than ever – and are simultaneously busier than ever – it is gratifying to know that you have new resources available to help you find love… happiness… and even find your Soulmate.Internet Dating is gaining in popularity and no longer holds the stigma it did even five years ago. Online dating and matchmaking services have become highly regarded as reliable ways to take the guesswork out of dating. For those who have concentrated heavily on their careers – only to find that with success comes less time for dating – online dating services have become an invaluable tool in helping singles meet like-minded others. Want to Find your Soulmate? The Online Dating Coach to the Rescue!As an added benefit to the convenience of online dating, clients can also receive the services of an Online Dating Coach or “Love Coach” as we’re sometimes referred to by our clients. As a professional guide and consultant, a Dating Coach is now in demand by singles who are looking for guidance. Many professionals understand how important it is to describe the best parts of their personalities in writing – and this is where a Dating Coach can really help you shine!An Online Dating Coach is an expert and will create an outstanding Online Dating Profile for you. There aren’t many Online Dating Coaches in the world, but those who choose this profession are often talented – and even masterful – at creating a dating profile. The coach’s talent will be crucial to the client who has a lot to offer in a relationship, but who just isn’t skillful at putting his or her ideas down on paper. An Online Dating Coach will typically conduct an initial telephone interview with you, asking you lots of very interesting questions. During the first coaching session, your dating coach will take a look at your personality. By asking you a series of personal and revealing questions and paying attention to how you reply, your coach will use this information to create a dating strategy just for you.Be honest with your dating coach in expressing what you’re looking for. In addition to describing your personality in your dating profile, your coach will help you be realistic in your search for a relationship. If you’re an average-looking guy collecting unemployment benefits with three young kids at home, it’s unlikely you’ll be dating a world-famous supermodel – no matter how much you think you might want to. But on the other hand, your coach will also help you achieve the best results possible. Often an average-looking man or woman can be made to look and sound much better than they might sound on their own, just by highlighting and accentuating their best qualities. Your coach will also help you write Letters of Introduction. This will benefit you in several ways – for one, your response rate to your dating matches will almost certainly increase, and you’ll have access to more attractive partners.As an emerging new category of personal coaching, the role of the Online Dating Coach will almost certainly expand over the next five to ten years. As Online Dating grows in popularity, so will the role of the Dating Coach in serving the needs of clients worldwide who flock to dating sites in search of their Soulmates!

30 OctThe SECRETS to ONLINE DATING: ONLINE DATING BOOK “The Recipe”

If you have been in the online dating world for any time at all, you’ve seen that there are literally dozens and dozens of online dating books but which one is right for you? Some are free and some cost a few bucks but the biggest problem I have seen is that most of them fill there pages with fluff and not really concrete information that helps you do what you are looking to do, which is get quality women to respond to your posts and ads and get you out on fun and exciting dates.

The solution to this problem is the online dating book, “The Recipe: Everything you need to know to get women online” and it sets itself apart by being written from hundreds of real life experiences, tried and true techniques that work and is extremely detailed in every aspect from beginning in online dating to being out on successful dates to filling up your social calendar with dynamic, exciting and attractive women.

The first reason it is effective is each item in the book was written from real life experiences. Literally thousands of dollars and hundreds of hours in front of the screen on dating sites and out in the field with women have been spent in order to come up with the tips, tricks and secrets for a complete system and is your guide for successful online dating. The trial and error and guesswork have already been done for you so you can spend more time using these effective strategies that work rather than wasting your time from things that other less valuable online dating books tell you to do.

A lot of other books use hypothetical examples and general suggestions that aren’t really specific to you. The Recipe shows you step by step how to take your personality and real life experiences and make you extremely interesting and attractive to women that are looking for you and for women that you are looking for. You will become a much better dater after reading this online dating book and using these techniques.

The second reason is all of the techniques have been tried, tested and used extensively and they work. Every technique in the book has a significant chance of getting you out on successful dates and will get you the type of woman you are looking for.

Let’s face it; there is a lot of really bad dating advice on the internet. I personally think that 90% of what I have read about online dating is actually counterproductive to being successful in online dating! The Recipe has gathered a huge amount of information from a large number of sources and the techniques have been proven to work and have been all brought together in this one of a kind online dating book.

The third reason is it is extremely detailed. There is no fluff. Every item in the book has been examined and re-examined for quality. From creating the right frame, to grounding techniques to learning how to take a woman’s clothes off, each item is fully explained in extreme detail.

There is no other book on the market that has as much intimate detail into every aspect of online dating and successful dating techniques. There are entire chapters dedicated to items that other online dating books barely cover. Also, the other books remain very generic in their descriptions of what you should be doing. You won’t find that in The Recipe.

Everything is clearly defined, explained fully and this is the main reason you can spend minutes to refine your techniques instead of spending hours reading other books that just don’t work and wondering why you aren’t getting the results you want in order to successful attract quality women with online dating.

From the real life experiences, online dating techniques that work and its extreme detail, The Recipe is the best online dating book on the market and is the best resource for men trying to become successful in online dating. It turns bad daters into good daters and good daters into great daters. I highly recommend this online dating book for any man serious about creating an exciting dating life, becoming successful with online dating and attracting quality women.

30 OctOnline Dating Research Update – Hookmeup & La Trobe University

The research is being conducted online in IM with online daters between the ages of 18 and 30. Participants chat with the interviewer about their online dating experiences – what’s been good, what’s been bad and anything in between. Participants discuss if they think there’s anything risky about online dating, how many people they’ve met through online dating, what have been the outcomes of these meetings and how does it all compare to meeting people in other ways.

 

Well, some of the interim results are in and we’d like to share them with you.

 

Professor Pranee Liamputtong says:It’s interesting, when we compare these early project findings to some similar research we did five years ago, you can see a real change in how and why people are using online dating. Five years ago online dating was less common and a lot of people felt some stigma around using it, whereas now it’s much more the norm. Many participants are reporting that this is one of the most common ways they and their friends meet people.

 

So what are people using online dating for? Participants so far have shared a variety of reasons. It seems most people seem to be using online dating to seek out a long term partner. But that’s not to say sex doesn’t feature. For some people online dating still offers an opportunity to explore their sexuality; such as allowing people to try different sexual behaviours or to explore their sexual orientation. As one participant who uses online dating as with her partner summed up “meet people and maybe have sum fun, make friends”.

 

Online dating also offers a great way for people to widen their networks allowing you to meet people that you wouldn’t otherwise and it can all be done when you’re comfortable at home. One participant noted that she liked online dating because it “enabling me to meet someone who I shared interests with – without having the hassle of trying to have a conversation in some noisy bar or pub where all of the guys mates are watching his every move”.

 

Of course everyone has some method of screening their potential dates. The most obvious are by looks and personality as they are displayed initially through a profile and then through chat, email and phone calls. But how else are our fellow online daters screening their potential hook ups?

 

Increasingly people are using an array of online methods to screen their dating prospects. Some people like to look for consistency between what a person writes on their profile and what they type in chat. Some people like to use webcam as it helps them read body language and expressions to assess sincerity and honesty. And now with the rise of social networking sites, a number of online daters will check out their prospective dates MySpace or Facebook pages to see if everything adds up and matches what they already been told and the photos they’ve already seen.

 

So does this all sound similar or different to your own online dating experiences?  If you’d like to be part of this project and share your thoughts, experiences and opinions about online dating then just add onlinedating@latrobe.edu.au to your messenger or visit the project webpage to find out more.

 

30 OctEgyptian Singles in Dubai at Egyptian Dating Service

The Egyptian singles in Dubai with the service of dating of Egypt are ready to pass with a new relationship. They are serious seeking a associate of life to share their life with. The girls and the single boys of Dubai must be only recorded on line to find one on others. The process to be registered with a personal advertisement is easy. That takes a few minutes to you to achieve your profile. After you have a profile, you can come into contact with thousands of Egyptian advertisements of personnel for free. To date in Dubai is easy like that. The Egyptian service of dating is recreation and full with the surprises. You should join these completely Arab sites of dating to find a beautiful woman or single man Egyptian up to now with. You can say goodbye to your only life by seeking your companion of heart today.singles in Dubai are faithful to like and the relationship which they give or are given by others. The majority of the women and single men of Dubai were by services of dating of Dubai. Without paying any cost, the single women and Egyptian men can contact themselves for the recreation, the romance, and the marriage. It is the wonderful part of Arab service of dating. More Arabic singles seek on line their dates with the Egyptian service of dating because it is free, easy to use, and simple to find a date. The service of dating of Egypt had helped of the thousands of Egyptian singles to find their relationships long-term in last recent years. The sites of dating of Dubai are the tool that the unmarried men and women should put their confidence in order to find a true companion of heart above.The Egyptian dating on line is recreation and fantastic because women and the single men have a place to divide and to meet the ones with the others. They can find new friends, correspondents, and associated on line. They can also seek the romance with the Egyptian service in line of dating. Each year, thousands of new relationships are created Arab services of dating thus the dating on line established well. The Egyptian singles do not like to visit the nightclubs to find a true date. Generally, these places do not create the true date. The two single women and men try to get busy on the goal with the bars. In fact, they do not like bottom of their stag. Only the free Arab Web sites of dating can help singles in Dubai to find their companion of life.The Egyptian singles to seek the relationship and the romance with the Egyptian service of dating was a phenomenon in last years because of the electronic world of the Internet which we currently live in today. Thousands of relationships and the marriage are created each year for those which seek the love on the Internet. The Arab sites of dating provide the manner of finding your future companion of heart easily. You do not need to pay the service by uniting the completely free Egyptian sites of dating. Of what you have need is a computer of Internet which gives access you and to review the Internet. It is very that you must find singles in Dubai for the dating and the marriage. There you can find your love and dates true without paying any cost of the whole.

30 OctOnline Dating Book – Section 3 , Supporters!

The Supporters section in this online dating book. If you are wondering how many personality quadrants their are, you can check out the online dating book and get all of the information you need.

Supporters are very good friends. They are very casual and likable people that would go all out to please others. They are the peace makers. They tend to minimize conflict with other people.

When it comes to making decisions, they let generally let others make the decisions and will rarely turn down the request. They may sometimes be perceived by others as having no back-bone because of their complying attitude and lack of initiative.

They are also people who do not respond well to challenges and are not usually highly-competitive people. This is because they do not want to hurt the feelings of others when winning or losing in a competitive environment and may even ‘let others win’ to preserve the friendship.

They are people who respond well to orders (especially from controllers). This makes them very easy to supervise but not when it comes to having them do things on their own without supervision. They also tend to lack interest in planning and goal-setting and may need to be more ordered when it comes to doing things.

Sometimes, it is no point asking them for honest or critical advice because they then to sugar coat the feedback in an effort not to hurt anyone.

Finally, when they face disagreement, they tend to let others have their way while building a wall of resentment in themselves until they finally explode (and then apologizing profusely afterwards)

If you are a supporter, you will be:

Leaning towards projects that promise rewards and more friends

If you learnt something and are now more confident in your analyses of others, then check out the online dating book and see how much more you can improve yourself!